IBM* Restart (*Introvert Boomer Male)
As an Introvert Boomer Male, I don’t feel mature, and I don’t feel like my entire life is over. I’m just baffled.
You would wonder if I would have figured out by now.
All of those pump up books thrown down our throats by obsessed extroverts have done virtually nothing for IBMs..
Nearly all self-help books repeat the exact same extrovert stories of pulling oneself up by your own bootstraps. As a rule, self-help pablum makes us all feel like failures when we can’t move in some self-anointed guru’s path.
Possibly more than once.
Beneath all the optimistic thinking shams lies a stinking feeling that maybe you’re not adequate. Daily living gets in the way of living a wonderful life.
I have become way too critical of my failures while failing to remember past successes. We all tear ourselves down by comparing our lives to others we see as more prosperous. Or I look at my life now and question how I flat out ruined golden opportunities that were already in my hands.
We have all learned to swap the judgement of others for our own. Your personal opinion is as least as valuable as that of others. Value it.
In all likelihood, someone disapproves of our actions, and we take that as gospel. We forget the old adage that opinions are like assholes. Everyone has one. And most of them stink.
I choose the IBM* (Introvert Boomer Male) Reboot quite frankly mainly because I am one. I didn’t make up these options. I’m a curator and researcher at heart. I will share what works for me. Theory without action is worthless.
We’re IBMs dammit. We’re not done yet. Or dead either.
Everyone suffers at times from feelings of inadequacy. Let it go. No problem. You can only begin a journey from where you are at today. I can only share what I learn and test – on myself.
Now is the time for action. You are a self-petri dish. Decide what works for you. For whatever reason, we see our own troubles as unmanageable. Given enough time and information, we can solve almost any problem.
Even if you have a string of ex-wives or bankruptcies in your rear view mirror, no one is stopping you from going forward except yourself.
Here are some of the concerns we will tackle:
1. Let a life reboot lead you to your vision for your future.
2. Overcome fears that you are considering the wrong path or that you are too old to make effective changes.
3. Trust your gut. Take action.
4. Fear of being rejected and uncertainty can paralyze good people. Get over it.
5. Stop comparing yourself to others and be the best you you can be.
6. Break the cycle of self-defeat and lack of success that is causing you meaningless pain.
7. Learn from the Stoics and take one action at a time.
8. Clean up your personal relationships. Drop friends and acquaintances who drain your energy. Run from women who are sucking your soul and finances dry.
If you feel caught in your life without appealing prospects on the line, this ebook is for you. I welcome fellow travelers on the path to recovery, refresh, and reboot.
If you are an introvert, male, and born between 1946 and 1964, you happen to be one among us. Come over to http://introvertboomermale.com. We, a little over anyone, be respectful to your privacy.